Sunday, May 8, 2011

Happy Mother’s Day to all those mom’s and all those men and women who have been caring towards someone. I am thinking – that encompasses everyone.

Let’s face it – everyone deserves some “motherly love”.

We all want to feel heard. Anyone who really listens to what someone else is saying is a care giver of sorts.

My son and his wife are in China about to embark on parenthood – they are appropriately – nervous and excited.

With all of the people I have worked with – “MOM” is a big deal. My growth in my relationship with my mom was a big part in my healing. I used to blame her, for how I felt about myself. I have since realized that she did the very best she could at the time. She mothered us like she was taught to mother – taking care of our needs – and she did a really great job of making sure that we were clean, fed, had clean clothes, school work etc.

Instead of focusing on what I felt I didn’t get from her; I have come to appreciate all the amazing things she was able to do with seven children. In other words – I stopped being a victim.

Today my mom and I have a great relationship – we have worked at it. We have shared our hurts and pains without blame. How I feel is about me. How she feels is about her. We can’t go back in time – but we can love in this moment – that’s all we have. It doesn’t matter who is right – it just matters that we care enough to hear each other and love each other.

Healing is created in every forgiving moment.

Today – I pray for forgiveness. If there is anything that you are holding against another – I pray that you find forgiveness. Forgiveness is not about saying that the way you were treated was right; it’s about setting yourself free from the weight of carrying around the burden of hate, anger, resentment, and pain.

Today, if you have someone that has hurt you – let it go – surrender it to God. Set yourself free to have the space in your heart to love those in your life that you want to love; otherwise the person that you feel anger or resentment toward is the one that you are giving your heart to. Hard to swallow isn’t it? When we think about the energy that is spent in hating someone or being mad at someone – well – those feelings take up space in our heart. We have all experienced some brokenness. Forgiving others helps us be more forgiving of ourselves.

I am grateful for my mother today and all those who have loved me and all those that I have been blessed with the opportunity to love.

Happy Mother’s Day with Love,

Until next time, be radical, radiant, & real!