It’s our responsibility to be heard.
Most of us did not grow up learning effective communication. We expect others to know what we want or to “get” what we are saying or feeling. Well it doesn’t always work that way. A good question to ask is “what did you hear me say”. Then we know if they “got it” or not.
Communicating effectively can be more difficult when emotions are involved.
When we are in conflict with someone, it’s natural to want the other party to see things our way or “to win”. However, when we change our perspective to accept “just being heard” and being willing to hear the other person’s side, how they are thinking or feeling; we change conflict into communion.
When speaking our minds, it’s important to keep the ball in our court so to speak; making it about us and our thoughts and feelings, not about what the other person said or did or didn’t do. Blaming them for the conflict only puts them on the defensive, making a resolution even more challenging. For example, to say “You didn’t take out the trash, you never help out around the house” is accusatory and reactive. A proactive approach would be to take a few minutes and ask yourself, “what am I really upset about? What is really bothering me?” Give yourself permission to listen to your heart. What you really want to say might be “I’m really feeling alone right now. I miss having fun with you. I feel overwhelmed with all the things that need to be done.”
All relationships are opportunities for growth, the more challenging the relationship, the more potential growth awaits.
Viewing communication as a sacred experience, transforms an ordinary moment into a shared heart felt moment. We are miracle workers, God’s hands, feet and voice.
Today I pray, we choose to bring Love into all of our thoughts and all of our words.
And so it is.
blessings & love,
Until next time, BE radiant, radical & real!
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