How to be happy, is more challenging than one might think. When I say happy, I mean HAPPY, feeling joy at the core of our being. For most of us, happiness can seem fleeting, we are happy and then we are not. We may be so very happy with a new relationship, job or car, yet before long our happiness has waned.

REAL Happiness, Happiness that lasts,  comes from love! Love from the inside out. How to be Happy

The ego, however, seeks to protect us from others. The ego is about separation, whereas Love is about connectedness. When we start feeling loved and lovable, the ego sends up a red flag; “danger! danger!” The ego wants to warn us against getting hurt. The ego has a way of reaching into our memory bank and reminding us of all the times that we have been hurt and disappointed, so we will keep the walls of separation up.

Yes we may get hurt. I have not met anyone that hasn’t been hurt. The secret is to realize that we can live in the PAST, in a place of hurt or live in the PRESENT, in a place of love. We have a choice. There is always growth that CAN happen through the pain. I haven’t grown in the easy times in my life, I have grown in the challenging, sad, frustrating and scary times.

From Alfred Lord Tennyson’s poem In Memoriam:27, 1850:

I hold it true, whate’er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
‘Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.

If we get stuck in the pain, we are hurting anyway. Love is so powerful and it starts with self love. When we love ourselves enough to teach people how to treat us, we confidently love. If we don’t love ourselves enough to treat ourselves with dignity and respect, why would we think someone else would.

How to be Happy:

Love starts HERE! No One can give us Self Love and No One can take it away. Self Love comes from within.

We have a Divine love within us, waiting to be accepted.


Today I pray, we receive the love that is waiting for us. We are in this together!

blessings & love, screen shot DJ small

Until next time, BE Radiant, Radical and Real!